All I really want for Christmas is for my husband to love me. I want to feel like he finds me special, and cherishes me and loves me and respects me. He doesn't have to give me any gift to open. Just getting that would mean the world to me.
I'm tired of feeling like I don't matter. I'm tired of being criticized and put down. I'm tired of my opinion not mattering. I'm tired of being spoken to disrespectfully.
We have lots of sermons at church on leaving our first love. How we started out loving God so much and have lost that. I think we need some sermons on husbands loving their lives. A husband's responsibility isn't just to put a roof over our head.
Okay, I've spilled it.
Wednesday, November 24
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Sorry you are hurting. I can relate, on some level...not so much regarding my husband, but just people in general. There are not too many people out there who just love me for who I am...they are always telling me to be someone else. Hurtful.
ReplyDeleteMuch love, Colleen
Praying that you and your husband can return to when you first fell in love!
ReplyDeleteIn spite of being hurt, I would just recommend to do all that you can to respect him and encourage him as a man needs encouraged - thankful for his working to provide, etc. Try not to be offended (easier said than done, I know) and just continue to show him love as he needs/sees love. If you're like me ... you will also need to bite your tongue occasionally :)
Praying for you!
And force yourself to focus on the positive things and not the negative. Remember to verbally point out the positives, too, and not just the negatives.
ReplyDeleteMan - this is as much for me as it is for you. I am speaking to myself at how I should be treating my husband :)
I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I hurt reading this. I think these women have given some good advice so I'm not going to add to it, but I will pray for you.
ReplyDeleteJust checking in on you - hope you are doing ok.
ReplyDeleteI also am praying that things will heal. I know how surely they can. I wish I could fix it for you!! THat Beth Moore book, "So long Insecurity" has so much more in it than the title portrays and it gave me a new perspective so I could change my own attitude and thus behavior with my teens. (Which is an issue for most moms with kids that age) so that they changed in response without knowing how. The same principles apply to every relationship. Also counseling just for you would help in general, I know. Free at most churches. You are so not alone in this. I think every married person goes through these feelings at one point or another through the years and I have seen first hand how in love people can be once they work through it to a marriage better, stronger (more bionic!haha) than it could have been without this time. God Bless your marriage!!
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